Mountain Dew, Cool Ranch Doritos and Candy Bars

The breakfast and lunch of ……. a future holistic health and fitness coach? It may be hard to believe, but, that was my breakfast and lunch for at least a full year in high school. I would get picked up by a friend for school and we would stop at the Speedy Q where we would get breakfast. My go to was Mountain Dew and cool ranch Doritos (cool ranch was a new flavor at the time). In my school our Spanish club sold candy bars year round for their trip to Spain. Sadly, I ate the gooey caramel one almost daily for lunch. I stepped it up a bit senior year and ate a super bagel and fries at Charlie Brown’s every day. Charlie Brown’s was an ice cream place that was off limits for lunch because we weren’t allowed to leave school property. The craving for super bagels must have been pretty bad since I seem to remember serving detention a time or two. Horrifying isn’t it? Somehow, with those habits, I remained very thin and relatively healthy. I think it must have been because my mom cooked healthy meals every night. One nutritious meal a day kept the doctor away. Well, when I was a kid anyway. In college, I drank double shot mocha’s two to three times a day. Except in the summer time. Tim Horton’s came out with a frozen mocha that was ridiculous and yes, I had at least one a day. I was already a personal trainer at this time! Hell of a role model, huh? My habits sucked! 

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Who are you listening to?

What in the world does it mean to have a best body?

I was in Target this afternoon and saw Us Magazine’s cover this week. It has Jennifer Lopez on it and the title is Best Bodies.

It struck me. What the hell does that even mean? How many women and young girls see that cover, compare themselves and then dismiss their body as less than?

How many guys see that and a million other covers over the years and compare the women in the real world?

I realize this sells magazines. But, here’s the deal.

They are strictly talking about looks, so, call that shit out. Looks aren’t the only aspect of what makes a body awesome. And who the hell are they to tell me what body looks best? How many people believe them?

Think for a minute about who the people are that are telling us who’s hot and who’s not. They are getting paid a whole bunch of money to figure out how to use our insecurities to make us “need” to buy stuff.

It’s simple really. They get us to think we need things by making us feel like we are not enough.

If we all felt secure in our own skin, it wouldn’t be good for a lot of industries. In fact, marketing to us would have to take on a whole new approach. The more confident and secure I am in myself, the less money I spend. When I am confident and secure, I don’t need anything outside of myself to feel good. I don’t feel like I need to fix things. Media doesn’t get to me.

I know that if I feel like something needs fixing, it isn’t about spending money.

You don’t need a magazine to tell you who has the best body. YOU have the best body. So do I.

I am not always in love with how every part of my body looks, but, that isn’t all a body has to offer. Ironically, when you honor it for all it has to offer, it looks better too.

My body is constantly working to correct itself. Even when I am not nice to it.

My body takes me places even when it is screaming for rest. It deals with what I give it.

My body constantly looks for balance and has systems to keep brining me back to balance all while dealing with chronic illness. Your body is doing the same thing even if you don’t have a chronic illness.

You know the things you do to treat your body poorly. Guess what? It’s so forgiving that it works to counteract your carelessness. It is working to counteract the environment. It is built to live. You cannot live while comparing yourself to bodies on magazines.

I encourage you to honor your body for being the best body you will ever have.

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The Summer of Self-love

If you read my last blog, I Hear the Secrets that you Keep, you might be wondering how I got my mojo back and started living life again. If you haven’t read it and you struggle in silence with anything, go check it out first. I had really hit rock bottom back in January last year. My health issues were raging. I was struggling with work because of it, but, I was also just uninspired to keep growing the business that I had been building for so long. I was feeling like a fraud. I was preaching healthy living and the benefits that would follow, I was living it myself, yet I was suffering every day. I worked when I could and would push myself to get through as much as I could so that I wouldn’t have to cancel on any clients… until I couldn’t. My body would physically not allow it. I would repeat this cycle over and over. You know the definition of insanity? Repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I may have been temporarily insane. I finally had enough and decided to try some things differently. I decided to have a very different kind of summer this year. Instead of taking advantage of the extra light and being able to take clients workouts outdoors (meaning fitting in MORE sessions), I decided to chill. It was time for some true self-love and the only way that could happen is with some big changes. Here’s a little snapshot into the big stuff that changed:

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I hear the secrets that you keep…

HAH! Sorry. I don’t really hear your secrets. That’s just creepy. I do however, keep hearing the popular 80’s song by The Romantics every time I sit down to work on this blog and try and come up with a name for it. I figured it was a sign. Hence the name. Some people we know on a professional level. Some people we know on a social level. Some people we know intimately because they are family or we share our space with them as a spouse, partner or a room mate. Then some people are mere acquaintances or even less, we follow them on social media. But, how much do we really know the people that we “know”. Everyone is fighting a battle that you know nothing about. We all face them every day. It’s just part of being human. You know the people that you compare yourself to? They struggle too. You know the Facebook friend who’s life seems like a freakin’ dream? The one that makes you feel like your battles will never let your life measure up to theirs? They have their battles too. People don’t post the ugly stuff. Well, there may be some drama mongers that do. I know there’s a whole lot more to my life than what gets posted on Facebook, though. I don’t think people omit the ugly because they want people to compare and feel bad, but, it is human nature to compare and that is what we do whether we realize it or not. Comparison is a killer. It kills dreams. It kills creativity. It kills hope. How do I know? I am just like everyone else. I have my secret battles and I have done my fair share of comparing and it sure seems like there are a lot […]

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Make Home-made Handsalve: An Introduction to Carrier Oils

Many skincare products that you buy at the store contain petrochemicals, synthetic fragrances, and other products that are known skin irritants. Making your own skincare products is a great way to have control over what goes into them and what you put on your skin. Making your own products also allows you to easily customize them to your own specific needs. Different types of oils have different properties to them and you can select the ones that provide that benefits you are looking for.

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Habits of Fit People

I’m not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing, but, whenever I am at a gathering of family or friends, I get introduced as the “trainer”. Once people know I am the “trainer” I feel like I turn into a priest taking confessions. I can’t seem to go to any gathering involving food without someone commenting on how they shouldn’t eat this while they go ahead and eat it anyhow. What they shouldn’t eat is usually followed by a confession of how they don’t exercise like they should. This is often followed up with some comment about how much easier it is for “you naturally fit people”. I have some news folks, the only difference between the fit and the unfit is that the fit decide they want it and create the habits and mindset to get it and the unfit don’t. The fit work to be fit. Here’s a list I threw together of some of the habits and mindset to become one of those “naturally fit people”:

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